I often hear subbies complain that they are ignored by the object of their desire. They call, email, DM, and IM with nary a response. These subbies are confused and dismayed. Why no response?
The obvious never occurred to them. Why would we?
Though it may seem like a snarky reply, it is not and there is good reason for a Dom/me's lack of response. What have you done for me lately? What do you offer other than your eyeballs and request (or worse demand) to indulge your self
A Dom/me offers others an opportunity to serve and service is
the reward. It is the foundation of a healthy symbiotic Dom/sub relationship. The type of service is defined by the individual Dominant and the Dominant sets the parameters. Unfortunately there is an intellectual disconnect going on by the sub. It is the belief that the sub's whims are there to be sated by Mistress or Master. If Mistress loves having her feet worshiped it does not necessarily mean she wants them drooled on. She has a particular way in which she wants them worshiped. A Master who adores foot massage wants a REAL massage. Not a foot grope that only feels good to the groper.
So when we get an email by someone who wants to be a foot slave, we only know that individual is into our feet. It is their fetish. What is unclear is the quality
of service offered or if there even is quality or service. In all likelihood that person just wants to use US to get his/or her rocks off (for every email that results in a quality sub, We get an inbox full of time thieves). That is not service and a waste of a Dominant's time. We are busy having a life outside the sub's imagination. Our in boxes are crammed with such "offers". These offers are tantamount to a request for service FROM US. We get nothing but irritation. In fact, our response is often used as wank fodder fueling fantasies.
When the global recession is factored in, this type of contact is parasitic. Time IS money. Spending time answering these fruitless communications is time we are not spending on doing something that furthers our agenda.
However, there are those who communicate with US and get our attention. They get a response and access to US and our special world. These are individuals who come to US already having done their research (not just consuming our free pictures and clips) before contact. Not to mention their thoughtful missives have been spell checked showing attention to detail. No cut n pastes. Most importantly, these people show sincerity through action by buying clips, gifting, tithing, and or giving access to resources. The person who is a tech genius and will fix a 'puter bomb or create a web site offers value to US.
When communicating with a Dominant, especially when reply and or access is desired, do so carefully and with great care. Metaphorically speaking, just because you want to dance with the hot chick at the club because she makes your naughty bits tingle does not automatically make her your new dance partner. Look at her. Then look at you. Look at her, then look at you. She won't find a cheap ass arrogant slob a desirous dance partner. Instead she will find a bouncer to remove the lout and she might have him banned from the club all together. On the other hand, the good dancer who is generous, treats the staff with respect, tips well, and has a sparkling wit (and everyone loves him) will get that dance. He might also get to drive her home.
For more beneficial information to help guide you through, I highly recommend Mistress Didi's "How to Approach a Domina